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Feeling uninspired? We have all been there. There have definitely been stretches of time where I have just not wanted to do anything other than disassociate and hide away from the rest of the world, thanks to the meh feelings that decided to rear their heads.

Listen, it happens. Perhaps you are just bored with the same old routine. Maybe you are wanting to try something new but you don't really know what. Maybe you are out of routine, and that is causing some friction in your day to day. Whatever the reason for your feelings of blah, there is a way to turn it around.

Journaling and asking myself questions is one of the first methods I utilize when I am in a rut. I can get bored easily, and I know that being bored isn't always a good enough reason.

So, what does being in a rut look like?

Tell me if this sounds like you:

Extreme fatigue

Resistance to anything new or change

Procrastination

Inability to focus on a task/tasks.

Negative thoughts or mindset.

Indecisive.

Any of these symptoms sound familiar? If so, you may be in a rut! If you are able to admit this to yourself (the first step), that means you can make some changes. This is not to state that it will be easy to do, but you are not stuck here forever. This is a short term season. You don't have to stay here!

You also don't have to feel bad about this either. Every single person on this planet goes through this. We all have seasons where we feel down, uninspired, unmotivated and listless. There is no reason for you to feel any sort of shame or even feel the urge to hide away from others because of it.

Some of my greatest aha moments have been when I verbalized what I was feeling. and experiencing with my people. Lord love them, they will instantly shout out (literally) ideas and opportunities to pull me out of my funk. This is all it is, a funk.

A disclaimer: Depression and feeling like you are in a rut are very different. I am not a medical professional nor am I a licensed therapist. So, if you are experiencing or feeling any of the symptoms above for a prolonged period of time, please seek professional/medical help. Do not be afraid. We got you.

What kind of questions can you begin to ask yourself to help yourself out of the space you are in? I am so glad you asked!

What areas of my life feel stagnant?

You have to start with assessing parts of yourself that may feel off. Once you ask yourself this question, one or several things could go off in your mind. They could range from fitness and health, spiritual, career, relationships, just to name a few. Write those down. You will then use that list and breakdown what into smaller pieces to help you fix or reaarange as needed.

What dreams and/or goals have I abandoned and why?

I relate to this one a lot. As we age, naturally, the dreams we had as a kid no longer fit who we are an adult. That's perfectly fine and normal. However, there are some dreams that stay with you because they have grown with you and are meant for you to go after. A personal example from yours truly.

I dreamed of being a performer on Broadway and on television and cinema. I was even a background actor for a couple of television series and a movie, as well as accepted to a performing arts school in New York City. Obviously, that dream did not come true and I grew up. I became a wife and a mother and instead, used my creativity and talents toward other areas (writing and creating content for a health and fitness business I once had).

A dream I still have, and gets stronger every year, and I still have not done is to write a book. It will happen, but I have set it on the backburner for years. Time to light a fire under that dream. Same for you. What dreams or goals have you abandoned? Why? Are you ready to start again?

Finally, if you were given only 5 years left to live, what would you want to have accomplished by then?

Nobody really likes to think of their mortality, but the reality is that none of us are promised tomorrow or that we get to live to 100. My fiance and I recently had this conversation about our upcoming marriage. He reminded me that statistically, I will outlive him by several years. While I just cannot fathom a life without him in it, I also know that he is right.

Same is true for me. I could get hit by a bus tomorrow and not be able to do all things I have dreamed about and planned. If I was told I only had 5 years left on this earth, then that is the time to make the most out of that remaining time. What matters to you the most? What do you want to accomplish? What would you want to leave behind in terms of legacy? I instantly think of my people as well. What do I want to accomplish that will serve them and provide for them, long after I am gone. If that doesn't motivate you, I am not sure what else will!

These are obviously just a few questions to start with, and I am sure a quick google search will provide you with more. However, this is a good start and a way to move your way out of that rut and into the exciting journey that is this beautiful life.

Rooting you on!

Your Dream BuildHer Bestie,

Tiffany Rhea

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